IF HE HAD YOU AT HELLO, YOU HAVE A DESPeRATION PROBLEM...

THE INTOXICATING THRILL OF ONLINE SEXUAL CONQUESTS BY SYNTHIA ESTHER.

PSEUDO INTERNET AND TECHNOLOGY RELATIONSHIPS, A FALSE SENSE OF LIKE AND LOVE

PSEUDO TECHNOLOGY RELATIONSHIP ADDICTS

By Synthia Esther

You were excited while searching for sexual conquests on the Internet. You like to post profiles on online, and mobile dating sites, meet and greet by way of email, text, and live chat. You have the latest apps to connect in high tech speed. A new opposite sex Facebook friend makes your day come alive with excitement. You converse back and forth with the ease of a few clinks, as Internet technology works it's magic, creating the false feeling of a relationship when there really isn't one. You usually never agree to meet these people in person, as you prefer to hide behind a mask of secrecy, which offers an abundance of power, and control.

Meeting, creating, achieving, new online relationships provides you with a quick emotional high. Oftentimes, you masturbate as you view your love interests photos, and indulge in chats and conversations. You keep many of these relationships going, getting a quick sexual thrill in the process. This helps ease and erase the stress and worries of your day. Just a little help to make all your pain go away. You may be thinking, what is the harm? No one knows. You deserve to have friends you can talk to. This is one habit you don't want to give up. And why should you?

Men and women alike have become addicted to Internet and technology love relationships as a way to fulfill unmet needs. In truth, these needs are often not sexual, but spiritual longings within the soul (mind, will, emotions). The more one strives to fill their unmet emotional needs with shallow, imaginary relationships, the deeper the heart longs for the real deal. I have counseled women (I do not counsel men, however, many have written me relating much the same opposite sex problems), who have met men on the Internet. Some have confided they talk for hours, often several times a day, for many years, yet have never met the man in person. Many, when asked to do so, have even provided financial support after having been given a sad heart story by their technology love mate. Most often they live in fear that their technology lover will leave, and all personal contact end.

One woman, after almost five years in such a relationship, was left an emotional wreck when the relationship ended. Her technology love mate had a change of heart, after she gave him an ultimatum to finally meet. He called her bluff, and left her high and dry. Rather than counsel her on why he left, I counseled her on why she stayed. Her answer, "I love him, and believed the relationship was real and genuine." Such is the sorrow of women, who live in the constant shadow of pseudo relationships.

Alone and thought forgotten, many people settle for any type of love, affection, and attention they can get, even when it isn't real. There will always be opportunists who live a double life, carrying on a multitude of relationships, even while being married and having children. Only God and His love can fill the spiritual soul core needs within one's heart. The acting out cycle of sexual lust and conquest is but a temporary solution to very serious problems. A temporary high that does not last and takes more than it gives.

Each time you give into your sexual lustful obsessions you take away from your spiritual connection to God. God created relationships between a man and woman in order to feel and give an intimate, shared expression of love. When emotional and sexual needs are met in void of love and intimacy, they lack the spiritual intent God created. Ever wonder why many men and women seeking prostitutes for sex ask for the girl friend or boyfriend experience? They long to experience love and intimacy, even when fake, contrived, and paid for.

God is love. When we strive to fill our heart's longing God's way, we achieve the love, intimacy, and satisfaction, He ordained and our spirit craves. Spiritual growth begins as we learn to trust in Jesus Christ to meet all of our relationship needs. "That Christ may dwell in your hearts by faith; that ye, being rooted and grounded in love, may be able to comprehend with all saints what is the breadth, and length, and depth, and height; and to know the love of Christ which passeth knowledge, that ye be filled with all fullness of God." - Ephesians 3:17-19, KJV

I know you may be thinking, "God is spiritual, I desire a real person to talk to." Creatures of habit tend to make the same mistakes twice. When our mistakes grow to consume us, literally making us sick, we often come to our wits end, and change. Your dead end relationship is most often God's way of dealing with your bad choices in life. We all make them. However, not all of us are dedicated to ending them. God's word deals in change (2 Corinthians 5:17). And it is a change we can believe in! As we walk in the newness of life (Romans 6:4 KJV), we surrender to God our hearts desires and our will, He will direct our spirit home (Proverbs3:5-6).

I invite you to visit our salvation resource website page titled: "A Free Gift", to learn how you can accept Jesus Christ as Lord. As God desires to give us a life filled with hope and a future (Jere. 29:11).

God is most interested in the spiritual condition of our soul and spirit. Lean, trust, and depend on Jesus and His word. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus."- Philippians 4:6-7. Then, if, or when, opportunity presents itself to be carried away in lust of yet another technology love interest, remember change is not only possible, but probable, regardless of your age, or limitations. For we as Christians know, "I can do all things through Christ who strengtheneth me." - Philippians 4:13.

* For free addiction recovery help and resource please visit our sister ministry websites: www.synthiaesther.com, www.techchronicity.com, www.sexhisway.com and www.xxxhisway.com.

Phone sex is an addictive vice, forming false relationship bonding.

IF HE HAD YOU AT HELLO HE AIN'T WORTH HAVING.....

CHRISTIAN POSERS WHO ARE TECHNOLOGY PHONE SEX ADDICTS

By Synthia Esther

Ryan was a "christian war hero by day" and a "sex addict by night" In his double life of sin, shame, and betrayal, he lost me, the "real" love of his life, in exchange for the "fantasy" of empty sex and pornography addiction dreams. Worst yet, is his spirit's separation from God.

Loss of love, life, family, relationships, job, time, money and self respect, is all too common in the life of an addict. Former porn preformer Billy Lind reports he lost ten years of his life living in a closet, due to sex, porn and his addiction to crack cocaine.

Addiction is escalating, and uncontrollable.....

Addiction is an escalating, often uncontrollable need and desire, which when acted upon, causes a nero-biological long lasting chemical change within the brain. You make excuses for your destructive and irrational mood swings and behavior, because you don't want to give up your addictions, nor the coping mechanisms they provide. You remain in denial concerning your addictions and the problems they create. You like what the sexual lust demons do for you, so you desire to keep them.

You will continue to do so until your behavior causes you to bottom out, and come to your wits end. To continue in your destructive habits is to ensure your untimely demise spiritually, emotionally, and physically. You most likely feel unworthy of love, which is central to the addictive cycle of pain, shame, and remorse.

Many people may ask, "How can sex become an addiction without drug involvement?" Sex is like a drug, in that it releases naturally occurring peptides such as endorphins, which correspond with the electrochemical interactions in the brain (see article at: www.sexhisway.com - "Erectile Dysfunction - and the Dopamine Connection" - by Synthia Esther).

Dr. Patrick Carnes writes in his book, Don't Call It Love - Recovery From Sexual Addiction, "These peptides parallel the molecular construction of opiates like morphine, but they are many times more powerful. We know that when experimental rats are habituated to morphine or heroin, they will go through much pain in order to obtain more. However, when the pleasure centers of the brain are stimulated, releasing endorphins, rats will go through even more suffering than they will for morphine or heroin."

Sex addict's have grandiosity at their heart's core. Listen to what the word of God declares about such self-seeking, self-serving, bias behavior.

Addiction holds the user captive. Jesus Christ came to set the captive free - www.synthiaesther.com / www.sexhisway.com

SATAN AND HIS LURE

Scripture reveals Lucifer (Satan, the Devil), and his nature, and mission of deception. He transforms himself into an "angel of light" (2 Corinthians 11:14). So true with the mock up of porn stars, models who are air brushed to perfection with computer enhanced images. Perfect hair. Perfect body. Perfect smile and teeth. Perfect legs, breasts, and feet with just the right fetish arch! Angels of fantasy and delight. If you were to meet these "fake" beauty's and/or he-men in real life, most often they could not, and would not, live up to your expectations.

Yet in the world of fantasy, and sexual orgasmic dreams come true, you fill fulfilled, content, beyond your wildest imagination. Why is that? You have traded the truth for a lie, in one of Satan's master, deception plans. Sex is good, when sex is deviant! Sex is good, when sex is as wild as fifty shades of grey. Sex is good when it is illicit! Yet after your grand climax, you are left limp, dull, and void! That is until the next time you seek to indulge in the fantasy trap of sexual intoxication. Such is the trap of the greatest fantasy sex on earth!

I met a fellow, single Christian male, who just happened to have viewed my photos online. A certain flaw caught his attention in one of my photos (since removed), something simple, like a broken nail, and chipped polish, and he told me so. It seemed to bother him. Strange behavior for a Christian, I thought. The more I got to know this man, the more I realized (it did not take long), that his actions were not that of a sincere believer. He indeed was a fantasy sex addict who viewed women as objects. While talking with him by phone, he began to speak in broken sentences, every strange in tone and inflection, and his breathing patterns changed. I suddenly thought intuitively, "He is masturbating while talking to me on the phone".

I confronted him, and he admitted that he was indeed masturbating, and viewing my online photos, while we were talking. His phone sex was a sin betrayal, and I told him so! I distanced myself completely from this man. He is what I call, "A Spiritual Poser!" Of which there are many. Be aware, as this can and does happen.

Christian Home School advocate and founder of the institute in basic life principals - Bill Gothard, was thought by one such female victim, to have done this very thing (www.xxxhisway.com - sex addicts making the news, "Bill Gothard - Emotional Rape of the Innocent" By Synthia Esther - as reported by recoveryingrace.org.) When we betray loved ones, and those who are friends, or even acquaintances, we betray ourselves. As we will always reap what we sow (Galations 6:7).

What does God have to say about this self serving, lust, sin betrayal and behavior?

"Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Come near to God and He will come near to you." - (James 4:7-8)

"In this same way, count yourselves dead to sin but alive to God in Christ Jesus. Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey evil desires. Do not offer the parts of your body to sin, as instruments of wickedness, but rather offer yourselves to God, as those who have been brought from death to life; and offer the parts of your body to Him as instruments of righteousness. For sin shall not be your master, because you are not under the law, but under grace." - (Romans 6:11-14).

"Then He said to them all; 'If anyone would come after Me, he must deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me.'" - (Luke 9:23)

* If you would like to learn more about God's plan of salvation (John 3:16-17), please visit our website page: "A Free Gift!"

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Women addicted to cell phone sex, are oftentimes romance addicts at heart - Synthia Esther.

IF SHE HAD YOU AT HELLO SHE AIN'T WORTH HAVING...

GOOD LOOKS - LOTS OF MONEY, SHALLOW PERSONALITY TYPES

By Synthia Esther
May 14, 2015

Ever walk down the street, or visit the local market or Mall, and see this great looking, in shape woman with what most would define as a not so attractive, out of shape guy. Or a hot, handsome, well built man, like Joseph, in the Bible, who has a rather "homely" looking woman on his arm? "What's up with that?", I am often asked.

There is a lot more than meets the eye in the human - love attraction equation. As is often quoted, women will date and marry a successful rich "sugar daddy" of a man, while successful, rich men will date and often marry very beautiful women. There are also now many men, who desire to date and marry a "sugar mama".

No doubt about it, money and looks matter to many men and women. However, when such becomes the sole attraction, relationships flounder. For it is a "soul" attraction to another that is most important and endearing. Those shallow personality types who place ego drives above all else, often seek those of like mind. As such, what one seeks, one finds, as birds of a feather flock together. If all you have in common in matters of the heart are superficial, self-seeking longings, the relationship will not work out.

The Bible confirms it is better to be of a humble spirit with the lowly, than to divide the spoil with the proud, the humble in spirit will retain honor (Proverbs 16:19; 29:23). Where your true treasure is, there will your heart be also (Luke 12:34).

God's word reveals His instruction, and promises, which is a solid, rock firm foundation to build any and all our relationships upon (Matthew 7:24-27). "Trust in the LORD, and do good; dwell in the land, and feed on His faithfulness. Delight yourself also in the LORD, and He shall give you the desires of your heart. As we commit our way to Him, trusting in Him, we are lead to appreciate the finer spiritual things of life.

Scripture helps us sort through the shallow, and helps us identify, define, and interpret, what is good, right, and spiritually true. Providing us with God's ultimate wisdom, knowledge, and understanding (Proverbs 2).

As we keep God's word in the midst of our heart we find life and health (Proverbs 4:20-22). And it is the very peace of God which transcends all understanding that guards our hearts and minds in Christ Jesus our Lord (Philippians 4:7).