BUILD YOUR RELATIONSHIPS ON SOLID GROUND - MATTHEW 7:24-27
GOOD LOOKS - LOTS OF MONEY, SHALLOW PERSONALITY TYPES
By Synthia Esther
May 14, 2015
Ever walk down the street, or visit the local market or Mall, and see this great looking, in shape woman with what most would define as a not so attractive, out of shape guy. Or a hot, handsome, well built man, like Joseph, in the Bible, who has a rather "homely" looking woman on his arm? "What's up with that?", I am often asked.
There is a lot more than meets the eye in the human - love attraction equation. As is often quoted, women will date and marry a successful rich "sugar daddy" of a man, while successful, rich men will date and often marry very beautiful women. There are also now many men, who desire to date and marry a "sugar mama". No doubt about it, money and looks matter to many men and women.
However, when such becomes the sole attraction, relationships flounder. For it is a "soul" attraction to another that is most important and endearing. Those shallow personality types who place ego drives above all else, often seek those of like mind. As such, what one seeks, one finds, as birds of a feather flock together. If all you have in common in matters of the heart are superficial, self-seeking longings, the relationship will not work out.
The Bible confirms it is better to be of a humble spirit with the lowly, than to divide the spoil with the proud, the humble in spirit will retain honor (Proverbs 16:19; 29:23).
Where your true treasure is, there will your heart be also (Luke 12:34). God's word reveals His instruction, and promises, which is a solid, rock firm foundation to build any and all our relationships upon (Matthew 7:24-27). "Trust in the LORD, and do good; dwell in the land, and feed on His faithfulness. Delight yourself also in the LORD, and He shall give you the desires of your heart.
As we commit our way to Him, trusting in Him, we are lead to appreciate the finer spiritual things of life. Scripture helps us sort through the shallow, and helps us identify, define, and interpret, what is good, right, and spiritually true. Providing us with God's ultimate wisdom, knowledge, and understanding (Proverbs 2).
As we keep God's word in the midst of our heart we find life and health (Proverbs 4:20-22). And it is the very peace of God which transcends all understanding that guards our hearts and minds in Christ Jesus our Lord (Philippians 4:7).
RELATIONSHIP RESCUE - WHEN DATES DON'T GO AS PLANNED...
Set your affections on God, and things above - Colossians 3. Jeremiah 6:16, Follow the path of God, and be blessed!
DATING WITH GOD'S MISSION IN MIND
By Synthia Esther
The book seemed to have just the right cliches and trite answers to one's dating and relating questions. Singles striving to find their "soul mate" bought the book hoping to solve such riddling questions as, "Why men don't call you when they say they will?" "He's just not that into you, move on", being a quick summary of the answer.
Seems like common sense to me. So why do so many women, and men, obsess over the obvious, when dating rejection weighs in? The games people play when dating are too numerous to recount. Striving to figure out the nature of passive aggressive personality types, is a waste of time. What I have found to be common, is that many people strive to avoid conflict. They do not want to have to deal with emotional reactions and problems, so they just quietly disappear. Thank God, and move on, when you meet such a person. For their emotional intelligence and maturity level is very low.
There are also many who date to score sexually. They set the scene, court, charm, flatter, act romantic, just to have a good time, with hot sex being the motive and goal. One night stands are common in such dating and relating scenarios. Many singles are lonely, seek company, and the feeling of being loved, no matter how brief or fleeting. Depressed they haven't found "the right one" they often repeat these same mistakes and enter a state of inertia. Listless, and lacking motivation, when life doesn't seem to work out the way they wish it would.
Crushed dreams and unfulfilled desires are painful. "Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life." - Proverbs 13:12. The only way out for a sick heart, is to place our hope in Jesus! - (Psalm 42). This does not mean you have to kiss dating good-bye. Rather you seek God's will when dating and relating, and date only those who desire this same, spiritual resolve. Each person we meet, and share time with, is affected by our soul and spirit, testimony and witness. When we strive to share the "fruit of the spirit" (Galatians 5:22-23), peace and kindness qualities of our faith with another, we are blessed by God, who uses relationships to grow us up in Him.
I met a single, Christian male, and we conversed several times. He knew and named dropped many who were all fellow believers within many churches I had attended. He was bold in his witness, claiming Jesus as Lord. After a few in depth conversations, he asked me out, and I agreed. During our first, romantic dinner date, he casually stated his out look about God, was "Spiritual, but not Religious."
Immediately a big red flag went off within my spirit, as this was a pat statement that I had come to view as spiritually liberal leanings. I questioned, "Do you believe in following God's word?" To which he replied, God's word was subjective and not to be taken literally. A completely different view than what he had previously conveyed.
Profession of God, Jesus Christ, without the commitment to live out His word, which is God (John 1:1), meant we had little in common.
I witnessed to him, relating the spiritual importance and significance of remaining true to God's Holy word. When dinner was over, I was surprised when he asked me out again. I thought to myself, "Our spiritual differences do not matter to him, but to me they do, God's will being my top priority". I politely said no, stating I did not think we were compatible, being unequally yoked in our beliefs. He became angry, and called me judgmental. When the check came, I put my money where my mouth was, stated I felt more comfortable if I paid for my own dinner, and he willingly complied.
Now many may think, this date was a complete failure. I do not. For I believe without a shadow of a doubt, God ordained this meeting (Romans 8:28). The end result being, this man knew more about the significance of God's word than he did before, and that there are "Christians" within the world who refuse to compromise their spiritual convictions.
Dating with a mission in mind is not always easy. However, our witness and testimony for Jesus Christ is never lost (Isaiah 55:11). Not all our dating experiences as single Christians will be perfect, as planned. Dating provides us with the opportunity to get to know someone, at a deeper level. When we see there are differences spiritually, we should never compromise our faith and beliefs in order to please another. Whatsoever we do, we are to do all to the glory of God (1 Corinthians 10:31). When met at the cross roads of important life decisions, always travel the God road, which brings peace and blessings! - (Jeremiah 6:16).
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