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You cannot tell a man has a narcissistic personality disorder by the smile he projects.  Be aware.

NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER BY SYNTHIA ESTHER

His beguiling eager and charming attitude catches your attention. Oh how he longs for attention!

 

 THE NARCISSIST'S EVIL AGENDA OF MASTERY AND CONTROL 



By Synthia Esther


December 31, 2009 -Updated July 28, 2021.


Foundational Scripture:

"For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted."  -  Luke 14:11.


Narcissism.   Baleful, threatening, with evil foreshadows and developments.  An  ominous word to those of us who have ever known a truly narcissistic  personality type.  Narcissistic persons are also termed and defined  interchangeably, as sociopaths and psychopaths.  Narcissism  is defined  by the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders  (DSM IV-R), the diagnostic classification system used in the United  States, as "a pervasive pattern of grandiousity, need for admiration,  and a lack of empathy."   The DSM Criteria, which begins by early  adulthood and is present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five  (or more) of the following:


1. A grandiose sense of self-importance

2. A preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love

3. A belief that he or she is "special" and unique

4. Requires excessive admiration

5. Has a sense of entitlement

6. Is inter-personally exploitative

7. Lacks empathy

8. Is often envious of others or believes others are envious of him or her

9. Shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes


TWO MAIN BRANCHES OF EMPIRICAL STUDIES OF NARCISSISM RESEARCH, CLINICAL AND SOCIAL PSYCHOLOGY


Treating and viewing narcissism hold among psychology experts, both divergent relation and yet, converge in relation at times.


Campbell and Foster (2007), decree that narcissists hold the following "basic ingredients":

  • Positive.  Narcissists think they are better than others.
  • Inflated.  Narcissists' views tend to  be contrary to reality.  In measure which compare self-report to  objective measures, narcissists self-views tend to be greatly  exaggerated.
  • Agentic.  Narcissists' view tend to be most exaggerated in the agentic domain, relative to the communion domain.
  • Special.  Narcissists perceive themselves to be unique and special people.
  • Selfish.  Research upon narcissists' behavior in resource dilemmas supports the case for narcissists as being selfish.
  • Oriented toward success.  Narcissists are oriented towards success by being, for example, approach oriented.


"Campell and Foster (2007) argue that  self-regulatory strategies are of paramount importance to understanding  narcissism.  Self-regulation in narcissists involves such things as  striving to make one's self look, feel positive, special, successful and  important.  It comes in both intra-psychic, such as blaming a situation  rather than self for failure, and interpersonal forms, such as using a  relationship to seve one's own self.  Such differences in  self-regulation between narcissists and non-narcissists can be seen with  Campbell, Reeder, Sedikidess & Elliot (2000), who conducted a study  in which two experiments were conducted.  


"In both  experiments, participants took part an achievement task following which  they were provided with false feedback; it was either bogus success or  failure.  It was found that both narcissists and non-narcissists  self-enhanced but non-narcissists showed more flexibility in doing so.   Participants were measured on both a comparative and a non-comparative  self-enhancement strategy.  It was found that both narcissists and  non-narcissists employed the non-comparative strategy similarly.   However, narcissists were found to be more self-serving with the  comparative strategy, employing it far more, than non-narcissists,  suggesting a greater rigidity with their self-enhancement.  When  narcissists receive negative feedback which threatens the self, they  will self-enhance at all costs whereas non-narcissists tend to have  limits," (Wikpedia).


SANDY HOTCHKISS'S SEVEN DEADLY SINS OF NARCISSISM:


Sandy Hotchkiss is author of the book, "Why Is It Always About You? - The Seven Deadly Sins Of Narcissism," listing those seven traits as:

  • Shamelessness 
  • Magical Thinking
  • Arrogance
  • Envy
  • Entitlement
  • Exploitation 
  • Bad Boundaries


JAMES MASTERSON CONTENDS THERE ARE  TWO SUB- CATEGORIES FOR PATHOLOGICAL NARCISSISM (EXHIBITIONIST AND  CLOSET), WHICH DEVELOP DUE TO CHILDHOOD NURTURING PROBLEMS, USUALLY  INFLICTED BY THE MOTHER.  


  • The Closet Narcissist is often  described as having a deflated, inadequate self awareness, which extends  to a hightened level of emptiness from within.  
  • The Exhibitionist Narcissist being  described as having an inflated, grandiose sense of self.  With little  awareness of emptiness from within.


MY FIRST HAND HORRIFIC EXPERIENCE WITH A NARCISSIST


Truth be known, it was my past  relationship with a narcissistic, sex addicted man (Ryan - not his real  name), that lead me onto my more devoted, God enlightened path.   I  have at the time of this writing, devoted myself for close to a decade  in educational pursuit, and spiritual journey home towards God's truth,  love, and humility.  I have always been a Christian, since the age of  childhood.  However, for a short time I drifted away from God's precepts  and holy ordinances.  It was during this very brief time period of  personal confusion that Satan literally sent to my doorstep, "A  narcissistic man, filled with evil intention."  


Did he look evil? 

No, to the contrary, he was  one of the most kind, caring, devoted Christian men I had ever met in my  entire life!  His demeanor and smile were contagious.  Deception,  manipulation, and evil intent were at his hearts core, and I became the  target of his seemingly, devoted affection.   So I lovingly advise, "If  you think it is too good to be true, it is!"  For only God is too  good, holy, and true.  Men, women, will fail you.  But God never will.   He is a steadfast friend upon whom you can depend.


God's word is true as is written in Hosea 4:6, "My people perish for lack of knowledge."   Oh, I had Biblical knowledge... I just didn't heed the knowledge I  had.  I also did not have worldly, street smarts.  Now I am feeding  God's sheep to know His word, name, and Satan's game.  When one is faced  with the reality of dark and sinister evil, their life cannot help but  change.  Unless they are of an evil mindset, and narcissistic too.  Then  it seems, "birds of a feather flock together."  


This is primarily where  some (not all), co-dependency personality types thrive.  For much like  an addict, often a co-dependent person is seeking control and mastery  too.  All of which are prompted by narcissistic self-motivated  interest.  The narcissistic co-dependent need's the addict in their life  to "complete them."  A narcissistic addict can be co-dependent as well,  which lends relevance to Masterson's definition of  "Closet  Narcissism".  Thus, the cycling pattern of highs and lows an addict /  co-dependent go through, is in reality, a search for God.  At addictions  core is "idol" worship, which perpetually makes it's rounds.  For  anyone or anything placed above God is an idol.   This is the core  process of all addiction.  The need for a substance, person, place, or  thing, is a false substitute for God.   Only God can complete you.  Only  the power of His Holy Spirit can help and enable an addict to defeat  addictions snare.  Only God can change anyone of us.


SPIRITUAL MISSING LINK AMONG NARCISSIST'S 

 

Ryan lead a double life of sin  filled pleasure.  He was a Christian war hero by day, and an evil  deviant by night.  He had all the nine critera of narcissism listed  above, with the addition of one more, "A lack of fear concerning God's  wrath."  Which the Bible states, "Is the beginning of knowledge and  wisdom."  Proverbs 1:7, "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and discipline." God is love.  God is Holy.  He is also our heavenly Father.  *As such, in love He disciplines His children (Hebrews 12:5-12).


From the pen of Charles Spurgeon  we  read, "When the life of grace first begins in the soul we do indeed  draw closer to God but it is wih great fear and trembling.  A soul who  has become aware of his guilt, and who truly has been humbled by it, is  overwhelmed by the sacredness of his new position in God's grace, and is  brought down to earth by an awareness of the grandeur of Jehovah in  whose presence he now stands.  Thus, with true humility the soul seeks  the lowest or most humble place.  Although a true believer will never  forget the sacredness of his new position, and will never lose the sense  of the holy awe surrounding it, his on going walk with Christ causes  the earlier feelings of fear and terror to subside.  As a Christian  grows in grace his fear of being in the very presence of the God who can  create or destroy becomes more of a holy reverence, and is no longer an  overshadowing dread.  As he matures he is called 'to a better place' - a  place of greater access to God in Christ Jesus.'"


THE NARCISSIST LIVES A LIFE WITHOUT EMPATHY 


A narcissist lives in his own  "grandiose" little world.  Though grandiose, some of these individuals  react to criticism or frustration with bouts of rage or humiliation  (Gramzow & Tangney, 1992). Others may react with cold indifference  (Messer, 1985).   Narcissistic Personality Disorder is one of the most  difficult personality problems to treat (Lawrence, 1987).  With  a lifestyle that requires constant attention, admiration, power,  control, pleasure, want, desire, and self fulfillment.  When involved  with a narcissist, you are an object.  Nothing more...nothing less.   


Psychodynamic theorists more  than others have theorized the onset of narcissistic personality  disorder, begins with cold, rejecting parents (Abnormal Psychology,  Fifth Edition, Ronald J. Comer, Chapter 16, Page 501).  They argue that  people with this background spend their lives defending against feeling  unsatisfied, rejected, unworthy, and wary of the world (Wink, 1996).   Less than 1 percent of adults display narcissistic personality disorder,  up to 75 percent of them men (Mattia & Zimmerman, 2001; APA, 2000).


I knew a man who once asked me  if looking at playboy magazines was the same as looking/viewing  pornography.   "Why of course," I replied. " For both are  viewed promoting the objectification of women, in order to fill a lack  within your own heart, mind, and soul.  Why does a man or woman have  such a lack?  Because they are not tender in heart, to feel the Holy  Spirit's conviction, preferring to feed their own ego and fleshly  desires.   Their lack is motivated by greed, loneliness, depression,  addiction, the list is as long and wide as their needs attest to.  So is  true of the many women and young girls, who pose and expose their naked  bodies.  They are searching for satisfaction from the world without.   When at the true source of their hearts core, is a longing for God.


When one is internally compete  in spiritual union with our Holy Father, there is no such lack.  Nor is  there anyway they could or would view another human soul as an  object.  When you change the way you look at people, animals, nature,  things....the people, animals, nature, and things you look at change.    Your world view is not centered upon self, it is centered upon God, and  His word, will, and ways.  To truly know God...is to love Him.  To love  God, is to love and empathize with others.  Which is why we are  instructed by God to, "Feed my sheep," (John 21:17).   Any method of  control or deception over another holds a degree of narcissism within  its scheme and theme.  This includes the sex trade, occult methods of  magick, hypnosis - mind control, *spiritual deception within the church  and politics, the workplace, etc...    


Daniel Goleman writes about  the sociopath (another dimension of evil within many narcissists),  lack  of empathy in his book, "Emotional Intelligence - Why it can  matter  more than IQ," Bantom Books, page 106-107:


"The blotting out of empathy  as these people inflict damage on victims is almost always part of an  emotional cycle that precipitates their cruel acts.  Witness the  emotional sequence that typically leads to a sex crime such as child  molestation.  The cycle begins with the molester feeling upset: angry,  depressed, lonely.  These sentiments might be *triggered by, say,  watching happy couples on TV, and then feeling depressed about being  alone.  The molester then seeks solace in a favored fantasy, typically  about a warm friendship with a child, the fantasy becomes sexual and  ends in masturbation.  Afterward, the molester feels a temporary relief  from the sadness, but the relief is short-lived; the depression and  loneliness return even more strongly.  


"The molester begins to  think about acting out the fantasy, telling himself justifications like  'I'm not doing any real harm if the child is not physically hurt' and  'If a child really didn't want to have sex with me, she could stop it.'   At this point the molester is seeing the child through the lens of the  perverted fantasy, not with empathy for what a real child would feel in  the situation.  That emotional detachment characterizes everything that  follows, from the ensuing plan to get a child alone, to the careful  rehearsal of what will happen, and then the execution of the plan.  All  of it is pursued as though the child involved had no feelings of her  own; instead the molester projects on her the cooperative attitude of  the child in his fantasy.  Her feelings - revulsion, fear, disgust - do  not register.  If they did, it would 'ruin' things for the molester."  


"Psychopaths  are also glib liars, willing to say anything to get what they want, and  they manipulate their victims' emotions with the same cynicism,"(page  108).


* Synthia Esther's Note:

 The same is true concerning  the cycling pattern of addiction.  A common A.A 12 Step acronym is the  word "H.A.L.T.," which stands to remind the addict of trigger's due to  being hungry, angry, lonely, or tired.  The addiction will always take  precedence over anything and anyone within the addicts life.  The  simplest trigger can manifest an alternate personality, and an  alternate means of escape from reality within an addicts heart, in order  to assure the satisfaction and longing of their drug of choice.  

Narcissistic Sex Addicts:


Havelock Ellis, an English  sexologist, used the term "narcissus-like" (1898), noting an excessive  habit of masturbation, as the person views themselves as their own sex  object.  Otto Rank is said to have published (1911), the first  psychoanalytical paper specifically concerned with narcissism, linking  it to vanity and self-admiration, (Millo Million, Theodore, Personality  Disorders in Modern Life, 2004.)


"Sexual narcissism has been  described as an egocentric pattern of sexual behavior that involves both  low self-esteem and an inflated sense of sexual ability and sexual  entitlement.  In addiction, sexual narcissism is the erotic  preoccupation with oneself as a superb lover through a desire to merge  sexually with a mirror image of oneself.  Sexual narcissism, coined by  David Farley Hulbert, is an intimacy dysfunction in which sexual  exploits are pursued, generally in the form of extramarital affairs, to  overcompensate for low self-esteem and an inability to experience true  intimacy.  This behavioral pattern is believed to be more common in men  than in women and has been tied to domestic violence in men and sexual  coercion in couples.  Hurlbert argues that sex is a natural biological  given and therefore cannot be deemed as an addiction.  He and his  colleagues assert that any sexual addiction is nothing more than a  misnomer for what is actually sexual narcissism or sexual compulsivity,"  (Wikpedia).



HEALTHY PEOPLE REACT TO A NARCISSISTIC PERSON WITH REVULSION


Dr. M. Scott Peck writes in his book, "People Of The Lie - The Hope For Healing Human Evil," (page 65), "The feeling that a healthy person often experiences in a  relationship with an evil one is revulsion.  The feeling of revulsion  may be almost instant if the evil encountered is blatant.  If the evil  is more subtle, the revulsion may develop only gradually as the  relationship with the evil one slowly deepens."    



Dr. Peck continues to describe  what this revulsion process feels like , "Revulsion is a powerful  emotion that causes us to immediately want to avoid, to escape, the  revolting presence.  And that is exactly the most appropriate thing for a  healthy person to do under ordinary circumstances when confronted with  an evil presence: to get away from it."  My physical and  emotional reaction towards Ryan's narcissistic double life of  sin, caused maladies of internal nausea.  While my spiritual core in his  presence felt oppressed, and depressed. One's Holy Spiritual guidance  and intuition, is a guiding factor to be sure.  For our conscious mental  signals and impressions are reacting to what our subconscious already  knows.  


IS THERE A CURE FOR NARCISSISM?   


Narcissism is a sin, plain and  simple.  As such, it is not an unpardonable sin.  Cognitive therapists  address attitudes of self-centered thinking, redirecting focus onto the  opinions of others, interpret criticism more rationally, while  increasing their ability to empathize, and change their all-or-nothing  notions (Freeman, 2002; Beck & Freeman, 1990).  No approach has  yielded much success.  Within an addicts A.A. 12 Step program, one would  be encouraged to change their "Stinkin Thinkin."   God's word has a  more positive solution, as we read in Matthew 7:12, "So in everything,  do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the  Law and the Prophets."


"This is the verdict: Light  has come into the world, but men loved darkness instead of light because  their deeds were evil.  Everyone who does evil hates the light, and  will not come into the light for fear that his deeds will be exposed.   But whoever lives by the truth comes into the light, so that it may be  seen plainly that what he has done has been done through God," (John  3:19-21).  For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the  world, but to save the world through Him," (John 3:17).  "God is spirit,  and His worshipers must worship in spirit and in truth." (John 4:24).    


Face personal introspection and transformation in the light of *God's love, and repent. "Submit  yourselves, then, to God.  Resist the devil, and he will flee from  you.  Come near to God and He will come near to you.  Wash your hands,  you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. Grieve, mourn  and wail. Change your laughter to mourning and your joy to gloom.   Humble yourselves before the Lord, and He will lift you up," (James  4:7-10).   "For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted."  -  Luke 14:11.



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SIN IS FUN FOR A SEASON - HEB. 11:25. HOWEVER, SIN ALWAYS HAS CONSEQUENCES - GAL. 6:7.

Those with narcissistic personality disorder never give up making your life a sad state of affairs, no pun intended.  The only way to end such a relationship is to say a prayer for them, leave them and never look back.


Funny thing is they never truly believe you will leave them and are totally shocked when the ending is assured.  I have counseled many women who admit much the same when relating their relationship sagas.


ALL IS WELL THAT ENDS WELL WHEN GOD IS WITH YOU! 


We in Christ Jesus Our Lord, know He is our strong tower.  He alone is our covering (Proverbs 18:10;  Psalm 59 ).  Thank Him for our lessons in life and yearn to live and grow and learn by His grace, all the more.



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