POWER AND SEX
- ALGOPHILIA, ASTHENOLAGNIA, MASOCHISM AND SADISM -
By Synthia Esther
Turning pain into pleasure may first appear in childhood with fantasies of sexual sadism and/or sexual masochism (Johnson & Becker, 1997). The sadistic acts often become a behavior pattern that develops by early adulthood (APA, 200, 1994). The pain/pleasure pattern can then hold longevity. Sadistic acts of cruelty may stay at the same level, but most often become more severe over the years (Santtila et al., 2002). Ronald J. Comer writes in the Fifth Edition of his book "Abnormal Psychology", pg. 427, "Some behaviorists believe that classical conditioning is at work in sexual sadism.
While inflicting pain, perhaps unintentionally, on an animal or person, a teenager may feel intense emotions and sexual arousal. The association between inflicting pain and being aroused sexually sets the stage for a pattern of sexual sadism. Behaviorists also propose that the disorder may result from modeling, when adolescents observe others achieving sexual satisfaction by inflicting pain.
'The many sexual magazines, books, and videotapes in our society make such models readily available (Seto, Maric, & BGarbaree, 2001; Lebegue 1991). There are also specialty clubs like the Power Ex-Change Club in San Francisco and The Green Door in Las Vegas. Psychodynamic and cognitive theorists view people with sexual sadism as having underlying feelings of sexual inadequacy; they inflict pain in order to achieve a sense of power or control, which in turn increases their sexual arousal (Rathbone, 2001).
Gloria G. Brame, William D. Brame and Jon Jacobs wrote the book "Different Loving" giving first hand personal insights into the D & S lifestyle, which even comes with a warning label. It reads; "Readers should not attempt any of the activities described in these pages." Ifantilism, depersonalization, spanking, flesh hooks, genital piercing, scarification are just a few of the many topics covered. Algophilia, the arousal from experiencing pain, Asthenolagnia, arousal from weakness or humiliation, Masochism, the ability to transfer emotions of pain to erotic feelings, and Sadism, the empowerment or arousal from injuring others, all play in various ways, a part in the human psyche of Dominant and Submissive participants.
DANGEROUS INTENT - TOPS DISEASE
Role playing, bondage, violet wands (a device used for the application of low current, high voltage with min 10kV to max 50kV, high frequency), torture, and pain are often a part of the Dominance and Submission (D/s), interplay of customs, rituals, power and control. Doms (male), Dommes (female), and Masters (a higher level Dominate of a strict order), with their submissive slaves, are said to agree on a "Safe Word" to be used as a safe guard for both physical and emotional boundaries.
Other considerations in the D & S lifestyle, or play scene, can include consent and slave contracts which expound on the mutual agreed upon limits and boundaries. Dominant's are also regarded by some D & S participants as teachers. Sexual objectification of submissive slaves, detachment, victimizing, and a lack of empathy by a dominant master turned ego manic, is termed as "Top's Disease", as they begin to view themselves as infallible. This grandiose, egocentric, omnipotent mindset has been at the core of many dominant's turned evil, with skewed self-image, shallow emotions, and dangerous intent. Such personality processes produce an abnormal dark affect, with a lack of emotional depth.
Alfred Adler (1870-1937), the founder of individual psychology, coined the term inferiority complex to describe people who have feelings of inferiority and compensate for them with a drive for superiority. Controlling others may help reduce personal inadequacies - Criminology, Ninth Edition, Larry J. Siegel, pg. 152. Jeffrey Dahmer satisfied his need for power and control through his sexual longings by picking up boys and young men for sex, whom he then drugged and tortured. Eventually Dahmer killed his victims and dismembered their bodies. He so desired submissive partners, he would try to turn some into living zombies by injecting acid into their brains.
When police searched his apartment they found "five dried and lacquered human skulls and a barrel containing three male torsos; an electric saw stained with blood, and a drum filled with acid which Dahmer had used to dissolve his victims bodies. In the freezer was a human head and a box containing human hands and genitals. The meat was neatly wrapped in the refrigerator, Dahmer later allowed, was also human - waiting to be eaten the way he preferred it, with mustard" - 100 Most Infamous Criminals, Jo Durden Smith, pg. 80.
Dahmer is not an isolated case. Dennis Rader, Albert DeSalvo, Albert Fish, Gary Heidnik, William Heirens, Ed Kemper, Ed Gein, Ted Bundy, are just a few Americans with sadism at their core. Andrei Chikatilo, Russia's most notorious murderer, was a well mannered schoolteacher. Between 1978 and 1990, Chikatilo had committed at least fifty-three murders of women, children and drifters. Power, blood, sex, torture and death were his sadistic pleasures. Chikatilo was executed in February 1994, by a firing squad.
Paul Bernardo and Karla Homolka have been referred to as the married Barbie and Ken Canadian Sadist team. Paul, the Dom, had a willing accomplice in his wife Karla, as he had her play the submissive role wearing a dogs choke collar, and submitting to being strangled with a wire cord to satisfy his sadistic fantasies.
Both Paul and Karla took part in drugging their victims, including Karla's sister Tammy, before committing their horrific sadistic crimes of rape and murder. Paul wanted to deflower Tammy, a virgin, and Karla was more than happy to help him do so, as a present to Paul. Tammy died during their crime of sadistic torture, one of many victims. The prosecution's 1993 deal with Karla was a 12 year prison sentence in exchange for her testimony against her husband, Paul. On Sept. 1, 1995, Paul Bernardo was convicted on all charges against him.
Richard D. Davis, 44, of Independence, Missouri was found guilty of first degree murder in kidnapping, rape, sodomy and assault in the May 2006 videotaped torture death of 41 year old Marsha Spicer also from Independence. Davis and his girlfriend Dana Riley, was also charged with capitol murder, kidnapping, rape, sodomy and assault of 36 year old Michelle Huff - Ricci. According to a CNN report, Davis showed no emotion as the verdict was read. Prosecutors say that Davis and Riley made tapes of the attacks and murders of Spicer and Huff - Rucci to fulfill Davis' violent sexual fantasies. The graphic DVD recordings showed Spicer's death. Jackson County Prosecutor Tammy Dickinson told jurors that Davis held Spicer down at his apartment while Riley sat on Spicer's face and smothered her. Defense attorney Tom Jacquinot urged jurors to find Davis guilty of second degree murder as the slaying was not planned but instead Davis became caught up in his own horrible fantasies about killing.
Cameron and Janice Hooker kidnapped Colleen Stan (aka Carol Smith), who spent the next seven years as Cameron's slave. Janice and Cameron even had sex while Colleen hung suspended above them after enduring a brutal beating and torture session. Cameron had a voracious pornography addiction that included S & M torture and violence and was fond (according to news reports), of "The Story O". As Cameron's slave, Colleen was locked in ventilated wooden boxes, tortured, electrocuted, beaten, repeatedly assaulted and made to live in a wooden box crafted by Cameron underneath the couples water bed. Janice gradually started seeing the light, as she read the bible and began attending a Nazarene Church. She then helped Colleen escape Cameron's grasp, sadistic torture and emotional brainwashing. Cameron Hooker was found guilty of ten felony counts, including rape, and other sex offenses. He showed no emotion when read his sentence.
SYNTHIA ESTHER DEFINES THE "S & F" FACTOR OF ADDICTION
The few examples quoted of lust murders are not informal fallacies pertaining to the documentation of possible top's disease nor are they of converse accident. When one person desires or strives to gain sexual power over another, or submits to another in sexual servitude, they usually experience an emotional and physical high as they learn to equate humiliation and pleasure from pain. As an example I relate the D & S activity of using enemas and golden showers (urinating on another person), which after repeated practice, no longer achieves a desired erotic high for the participants.
A been there done that mindset of the sexually addicted can and often does continue to escalate in order to maintain or gain a new sexual plateau. In this case perhaps the activity would escalate to include fisting, or hand balling (the penetration of the anus or vagina with a hand or fist), which is a medically dangerous activity. The need to rely on heavy, high risk erotic power exchange, termed as "Edge Play" according to those involved within the D & S lifestyle, becomes what I define as the "S & F" Sexual Addiction Factor.
"By visual, mental, and repeated physical anchoring and reinforcement, usually by organism, a paraphilia is seeded, implanted and programed into a person's psyche . The S & F Sexual Addiction Factor is that which you seed, and imprint within the mind and body, is that which you desire to feed in order to maintain the growth and ecstasy of the implanted, imprinted seed. This in turn allows a person to obtain a continual, auto-erotic processed mind program which produces more often than not, a dissociated, trance state of consciousness that can be induced by thought or transmitted by sound alone, even when not being physically acted upon. Once a psychological seed program is intact, the mind feed program within the psyche takes on a life of its own, with uncontrollable psychological triggers" - Synthia Esther.
I site R.J. McGuire, et. al, Sexual Deviation as Conditioned Behavior, Behavior Research & Therapy, 1965; vol. 2, p. 185. According to McGuire, "As a man repeatedly masturbates to a vivid sexual fantasy as his exclusive outlet, the pleasurable experiences endow the deviant fantasy with increasing erotic value. The orgasm experienced then provides the critical reinforcing event for the conditioning of the fantasy preceding or accompanying the act."
This sexually deviant masturbatory conditioning response can endow any deviant fantasy. Rape, molesting children and animals, sexual abuse, torture, incest, and the list goes on ... A few other references supporting deviant masturbatory fantasy significantly affecting the habit strength of the subjects sexual deviation can be found in the work and research done by: D.R.Evans - Masturbatory Fantasy & Sexual Deviation, Behavioral Research & Therapy, 1968: vo. 6, pg. 17. B.T. Jackson - A case of Voyeurism Treated by Counter Conditioning, Behavioral Research & Therapy, 1969; vol. 7, pg. 133.
HURTING PEOPLE, HURT PEOPLE
Getting high from a sexual fantasy come true offers an endorphin rush, filled with the chemical interplay of altered states of consciousness, which has often been referred to as "Subspace" by those within Sadomasochism circles. This "physical drug rush" can evolve and involve restraint, torture, mental and physical abuse, snuff (killing the human victim while video taping their death), or crush (using your feet as a weapon, while wearing high heels to crush and stomp an animal to death), by those with criminal intent.
Phillip Miller and Molly Devon's book, "Screw the Roses, Give Me The Thorns - The Romance And Sexual Sorcery Of Sadomasochism," (pg. 5), "We have a creed that we follow in S & M: Everything we do must be safe, sane, and consensual." While Miller and Devon's book relates such honored sentiments, they also admit in psychiatric parlance there are abusive people out there called wacko's, yet they proclaim the things done to each other are solely in the divine spirit of love and lust (pg. 6). Since when was lust a divine spirit? They also tout concerning D & S (pg.3), "This is a world in which the greatest kindness resides within cruelty." As applied to people, cruelty encompasses abuses, outrageous, and inhumane treatment that results in the wanton and unnecessary infliction of suffering upon the body or mind - Farlex Free Dictionary. The American Heritage School Dictionary defines being cruel as liking to cause pain or suffering; unkind; merciless: a cruel man. Abuse and merciless do not read like kindness to me. As is most often the case, hurting people, hurt people! So exactly who are the wacko's out there?
Power and control both physically and/or mentally are not limited to D & S relationships. An abusive dominant partner can be seen in many relationships, be it work, marriage, or significant other, where their partner or spouse assumes a submissive, passive, role. Domestic violence is often a result of such power plays of human indignation. Mary Winkler shot her husband Mathew, the Pastor of Fourth Street Church Of Christ, in Selmer, Tennessee on March 22, 2006, in the back while he was sleeping in bed. Mary Winkler, 33, states on tape while crying during questioning by Alabama officials; "Its just a lot of stupid stuff. I love him dearly, but gosh, he just nailed me in the ground. The first of our marriage I just took it like a mouse, didn't think anything different. My Mom just took it from my Dad, that stupid scenario." Mathew had a pornography addiction, and often required his timid, submissive wife to wear a wig and sexy platform high heels like the women prostitutes and porn activist he often watched. He also made her submit to sexual activity she never felt comfortable doing. Mary Winkler was found guilty of voluntary manslaughter.
SEX AND THE SPIRITUAL CONNECTION
People who turn to God as their loving, caring, warm, helpful, dependable friend, are found to be less lonely, pessimistic, depressed, or anxious than people without any religious beliefs or those who view God as cold and unresponsive (Koenig, 2002; Bergin & Richards, 2001; Clay, 1996). According to Gene Stainbrook, Ph.D., M.P.H., from the Center for Health Promotion, Research and Development at the University of Texas, "There are indications that helping others makes you happier and healthier." According to clinical psychologist Robert Mendelson, Ed.D., "Liking yourself gives you the emotional strengths you need to be able to give others."
Self-actualization and transcendence begins within our lives as we look at our own feelings and emotions, thoughts and behavior, realize we have a sin based nature in need of God's saving grace, mercy, and love *(John 3:16-17). In simple terms we seek the right path in life. Psalm 25:4-5."Show me the right path, O Lord; point out the road for me to follow. Lead me by your truth and search me." We no longer flaunt our authorty for we know by Christ's example (He gave His life on the Cross of Calvary, rose again on the third day, so we might live), whoever wants to be a true leader must be a servant (Matthew 20:25-26).
Those who place power and control, submission and dominance, master and slave relationships at the forefront of their love life, are stagnating their internal growth process by fueling their needs and desires from the emotional energy of others. They are striving to achieve deficiency needs from without, instead of from within their spiritual core. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails...and now these three remain; faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love - 1 Corinthians 13:4-13.
Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed His love among us: He sent His one and only Son into the world that we might love through Him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and His love is made complete in us. - 1st John 4:8-12.
Jesus replied: "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it; Love your neighbor as yourself" - Matthew 22:37-40.
* GOD IS ALL POWERFUL
"For the Kingdom of God is not a matter of talk but of power. What do you prefer? Shall I come to you with a whip, or in love and with a gentle spirit?" - 1st Corinthians 4:20-21.
* If you do not know Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, please visit our salvation page on this website: "A FREE GIFT"
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FORMER PRO-DOM TURNED CHRISTIAN GIVES HIS TESTIMONY ABOUT THE BDSM - DOMINANCE AND SUBMISSION LIFESTYLE
By Synthia Esther
Synthia Esther : Jerry, thank-you for getting back to me...and...God bless you for speaking the truth about D & S addiction bondage.
Jerry: I was Dom as a Pro. True, Pro Doms generally are "NON-SEXUAL" but the scene still revolves around LUST and much of the play is degrading, and can be very unsafe and extreme. There is nothing positive about being beaten until welts and marks are all or a person from caning, and I regret I did it! There are also very unsafe, unclean forms of play that goes on, and it now disgusts me. Believe me sister, I have been to NYC's notorious "Black & Blue Ball" before and I know all of the players in the biz. I was very into that scene, and I can tell you wholeheartedly, that it is demeaning, to both the Dom or the Sub, it doesn't matter.
Synthia Esther: Jerry, anything you could write and tell me would help...as your opinions come from a first hand basis.
Jerry: I have an issue with porn, and the adult industry in general. Whether it's porn, escorting, BDSM/fetish, stripping, etc... the adult industries do nothing but destroy. You know Synthia, what hurts me most is that some of the most good hearted and outgoing friends I ever had, were Pro Doms and people in the fetish/S &M scene. It's sad though, they are doing what they are doing, when they are better than that. Sure, you can post my testimony on your website. In Christ's Love, Jerry.
I became a believer (Christian), near the end of December 2006. Prior to changing my life to follow God, I lived quite a different life, a life that was wild, in vain, self-destructive, and with no promise of a future or any peace with life nor myself. I was once employed in the Adult/BDSM Industry as a Professional Dom, as well was I also once a Satanist. During the 1990's, I was a lead singer for a Death/Doom Thrash Metal band in Philadelphia called "Evil God Revival" which managed to be popular within the region. Obviously, the band was very satanic themed and anti-Christian, and at the time I lived a very reckless life. Prior to the band, I also was a Professional wrestler who graduated from Larry Sharps Monster Factory. My career as a wrestler was short lived, only 2 years (1989-1991) but for what it was worth, it was a fun part of my life and I met a lot of people in that Industry.
However, as most of my ventures in life, I still had not found my identity nor my purpose. I was a very lost man struggling to be someone, always concerned with what the world thought of me as I had tremendous low-self esteem and always suffered with Bipolar/Manic depression. I was abused as a child and young teen, and as many who suffered abuse, I became an abuser myself, taking my hostilities out on other people. Being manic, I had severe rage issues in my past, and there were even times in my life when I had thoughts of suicide.
I do share my faith with others and am always prepared to explain why I believe. While I will never come across with condemnation toward others, I will however defend my faith. I will defend it because I believe. Some are bewildered that I now believe in and walk after a God I formerly resented, blasphemed, mocked, and never even was sure existed, but I do! I believe wholeheartedly that there IS a God, and I believe what the Bible says about God is true. A decade ago, I had no regard for the Bible, but now I will defend the Bible no matter what, and I am NOT ashamed of the God I honor and serve.
My becoming who I am was not premeditated in any way, it just happened. I cannot explain why I would change like this, but I have changed and the only thing that could cause a man as myself to do such a complete turn around, is GOD. Yes, God does exist, make no mistake about it, and I also believe in the Christ! At one time, I was what I would consider as an agnostic when it came to God, but I was very influenced by the Occult also and I was into a lot of LaVey Satanism. Later however, I researched Theistic Satanism as well, and other various paths of spiritualism and occultism including: Golden Dawn, Theosophy, Western Paganism, Ordo Templi Orientis, and the Keys of Solomon. But with all of this being so, nothing has awakened my spirit more so then the living God spoken of in the Bible. I believe with all of my mind, all of my heart, and all of my spirit, that God does in fact exist, God is real, and God is ONE. There are no "gods" but the true living God, the one the ancient Hebrews wrote about and spoke about, this IS God!
God is my refuge, God is my comfort, God is my helper, and God is my encouragement! God provides ALL I need, and it is only in GOD I place my full trust, dependence, and hope! God is my strength and all things are possible with God. Amen .
Synthia Esther Responds:
Jerry turned his heart over to the one true God, Jesus Christ. Only He can save a lost soul in need. His testimony confirms that no matter one's past may have been, God forgives. Indeed we are ALL SINNERS saved by God's grace, mercy, and love (Eph. 2:8). God loves you with an everlasting love. Nothing is too difficult for God to heal. Nothing and No One (even Satan) can separate you from God's love and forgiveness. Just talk to God as you would a friend. For that is what He is, a friend upon whom you can depend. May the truth of God's light set you free from a life of bondage. May God's peace and love surround you. I care. God care's about "You"!
What is most obvious concerning Jerry's personal testimony is his care and concern for those still caught up in the sex industry. They remain in bondage to the S&M addictions because such activities fill a deep void in the life. While I have personally never been in the sex industry, my life path led me to care and reach out to them in very special ways. What is most common in many of their personal backgrounds is that their parents were not of the Christian faith. Many came from very dysfunctional families. For example: One former prostitute I befriend, was placed into the sex industry by her step father! God only knows the scope of a sex industry workers secret pain. Please pray for their salvation - because Jesus Christ loves them so very much! (John 3:16-17).
Another most obvious point of truth, is that many sexual deviants into the S&M life style are also into the occult and Satanism. Their master only seeks to kill and destroy them (John 10:10). I invite you to visit my website: www.sacredpursuit.org, to gleam wisdom and knowledge about such occult - metaphysical, paranormal deceptions. What was once termed the New Age occult Movement, has gone mainstream. Beware. Has God not said that His people are destroyed due to lack of knowledge? (Hosea 4:6).
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