WHY UNMARRIED, SINGLE CHRISTIANS ARE HAVING LOTS OF HOT SEX
By Synthia Esther
I know many singles who claim Jesus as Lord, who are having lots of premarital sex! Some of which, readily admit this...it is no deep, dark, secret sin. Many confirm their thoughts being along the line of the song by Salt and Pepa in their album : "Blacks' Magic"- (1990): "Lets talk about Sex, Baby, lets talk about you and me, lets talk about sex!"
Why? Because they believe once they said a simple prayer of salvation that was all they were required to do under God's grace. After all, there are many within religious circles that preach such lies. God, in His word, says otherwise, "go and sin no more" (John 8:11), being one such example.
Sex before marriage is a black magic lust and temptation lure of seduction fueled with Lucifer's trap fish bait (Ephesians 5:5). Which God tells us to flee from! - (1 Thessalonians 4:1-18; 1 Corinthians 6:18-20).
In his book, "The Spirituality That Heals", Michael Youssef writes about God's provision for your soul's deepest needs. On page 77 Youssef confirms, "The closer you get to the flame of the spirit, the more glowing and radiant you will become. The closer you get to the fountain of the Spirit, the more you will overflow with His likeness. The closer you walk with Jesus, the more like Him you will become. And in all ways the joy of the Holy Spirit will infuse you!"
The only way to get close to God is to flee Satan's course for your life, which is filled with death and destruction (John 10:10). Make no mistake about it, sex outside of marriage kills you spiritually as you live a double life of sin. You cannot serve two masters (Matthew 6:24; Luke 16:13).
SEX USED AS STRESS AND ANXIETY RELEASE
Many people use sex as a stress and anxiety reliever. Youssef writes (page 76), concerning the anxiety that plagues us, and the joy of the Lord when we give our problems to Him. "Joy is not based on having everything under control. Countless people believe they will feel joy if they can just get past the current crisis, pay all their current bills, meet the current deadlines. This expectation is doomed to failure and frustration because joy is not the result of our striving.
Rather, it is the result of letting go of the anxiety that is associated with striving, and instead, trusting God to do His work in us and on our behalf. Joy is found in trusting God to walk through that difficult time with us, to help us with His unlimited resources to meet all the challenges we face, and to work behind the scenes to bring about blessing."
Waiting for sex till marriage is a challenge many do not desire to achieve. However, you are not alone in the process. God, through the power of His Holy Spirit, will help you stop acting out sexually as you take the steps to lean on His word, will and ways (visit www.sexhisway.com for additional free help and Biblical resource). "...God will meet all your your needs according to His glorious riches in Christ Jesus." - Philipians 4:19.
Sex is not a "need" but a desire, and is to be saved for the marriage bed only, between one man and one woman, as husband and wife - (1 Corinthians 7:2).
You may say, "I have tried to stop having sex outside of marriage, and nothing has changed! Life is a bore without acting out sexually. Furthermore, I do not want to marry someone without knowing whether I am sexually compatible with that person."
Great sex, does not a relationship make! The lust excitement for anyone person will wane in time, and you will be left with incompatibility issues and problems. Emotional intelligence and maturity, requires you to look beyond sex, and see the soul (mind, will, and emotions) of a person, to know if you are truly compatible. One can work on their sexual likes and dislikes, but they cannot change who a person is. Only God can do that! Sex outside marriage, only complicates a relationship.
One only has to look in the mirror and face the person you have become. Which is someone who lives for the next climax. A person who is obsessed with sex, is literally controlled by their penis, vagina, and orgasm. Sex has become an "idol" in their life. Male and female alike, sex will not heal your broken heart. Sex will not provide the satisfaction you desire, without the intimacy God intended sex to be. True satisfaction in life comes only through, and by God.
Sex addict's have grandiousity at their heart's core. Listen to what the word of God declares about such self-seeking, self-serving, bias behavior...
"And you felt secure in your wickedness and said, 'No one sees me,' Your wisdom and your knowledge, they have deluded you; For you have said in your heart, 'I am, and there is no one besides me.' But evil will come on you Which you will not know how to charm away; And disaster will fall on you For which you cannot atone, And destruction about which you do not know Will come on you suddenly." - Isaiah 47:10-11
"He who conceals his sins does not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy." - Proverbs 28:13
"But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people. Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving. For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure or greedy person - such a man is an idolater-has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God." - Ephesians 5:3-5.
Jesus Christ is the bondage breaker! For the kingdom of God is not a matter of talk but of power. What do you prefer? Shall I come to you with a whip, or in love and with a gentle spirit? - 1st Corinthians 4:20-21.
God's promises are bigger than all your problems. His grace is sufficient to meet all your needs. He sent me to tell you how much He loves you. - John 3:16-17. If you would like to learn more about God's Salvation Plan and His grace, mercy, and love, please visit our website page: "A Free Gift!"
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