SATYRIASIS, NYMPHOMANIA & HYPERSEXUALTY by: synthia esther

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SATRYIASIS - MALE DESIRES SEX MOST OFTEN, HOWEVER NEVER SEEMS TO BE ABLE TO DEVELOP AN EMOTIONAL, INTIMACY BOND.

NYMPHOMANIA - WOMAN DESIRES SEX MOST OFTEN, HOWEVER, NEVER SEEMS EMOTIONALLY  SATISFIED IN A RELATIONSHIP. 

BOTH SUFFER  HYPERSEXUALITY  PROBLEMS AS NO ONE PERSON SEEMS TO BE ABLE TO SATISFY OR COMPLETE THEM....

God desires that He become your "SOUL MATE".  No man or woman, or many  men and women, can complete you. Only God can fill your heart and soul  with the love relationship you crave. We are humans living a life in the  shadow of sin's curse after Adam and Eve fell in the Garden of Eden  (Genesis 3).  Alienation from God occurred. In order to reverse that sin  curse we accept Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior, and in repentance  of our sins, follow His word, will, and ways. Whoever does so, has  eternal life, and hears His voice (John 3:16-17; 1 John 5:12-13; John  10:27-29; 1 John 1:7). With a renewed relationship in Christ, our  fellowship with Him is restored (1 John 1:3), our conscious void of  offense toward God and toward man (Acts 23:16) is made whole. 

When our  relationship with God is held strong and secure, by the power of God's  Holy Spirit, our wants and desires are changed.  God is more concerned  with the spiritual condition of our soul (mind, will, and emotions),  than the physical expression of obsession in finding a "soul mate".   When our soul is right, we place God as our mate, not man. By placing  God first, we allow His will to prevail in our life and not our own. He  knows what is best for our spiritual growth.  Oftentimes, when our  priorities are right, we are more equipped to handle the joys and trials  of a God sent mate.  God knew you before you were born.  His  workmanship being marvelous, He alone knows what you need (Psalm 1:39;  13-15).   

Jesus stated, for the Kingdom's sake, some of us are not to be married  (Matthew 19:10-13). His Holy perspective, sees life with an eternal  view. God's will for our love life, is to love Him above all else. He  redeems our life from the pit and crowns us with love and compassion,  forgives and heals us (Psalm 103:3-4). As we come to Him when we are  heavy in burden, He gives us rest (Matthew 11:28). All you are and ever  will be, when placed in the will of God, is good.  When we as singles  are freed from all distractions, we can serve Him more (1 Corinthians  7:32-35), as the time to do so is very short when viewed with from an  Earth time perspective (1 Corinthians 7:29). When we live for Jesus, our  love life is satisfied, all our fear is removed, all shame done away,  and blessed with radiance we are (Psalm 34:4-5). 

God desires that we as Christians be equally yoked with our dating  and/or marriage partner.  This would include, but is not limited to, the  following goals: the same faith and religious background, common  cultural and social views, comparable economic goals, intellectual and  educational commonality, stable and healthy self image, like spiritual  and emotional intelligence (empathy, sympathy, compassion, integrity,  and character). Being happily married is a blessing, not a reform  school.  The reality of which, takes work. A sincere, faithful  relationship with Jesus Christ, coupled with an understanding of what  makes us tick (faults, weaknesses, strengths etc...), goes a long way  towards developing an equally yoked, mutual love based relationship.

 "By  wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established;  through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful  treasures." - Proverbs 24:3-4   

When our dreams remain in limbo, we most always look for answers to such  trying questions. Indeed, the Lord God said, "It is not good that the  man should be alone. I will make him an help meet for him" - Genesis  2:18.  Who so finds a wife (or husband ) finds a good thing, and obtains  favor from the Lord (Proverbs 18:22).  Not just anyone will do, for we  as Christians are to be equally yoked (see previous, above question and  answer for reference). We must obey God rather than men (Acts 5:29). 

 Stay pure, and a sincere seeker of righteousness. The Apostle Paul  stated: "And herein do I exercise myself, to have always a conscience  void of offense towards God, and toward men" (Acts 24:16). Repentance of  sin daily, remaining pure in spirit and truth, brings God's blessings  (Hebrews 9:14).  Marriage, children, can become false idols in life.  Complete fulfillment in this life is never obtained through idols, but  God alone.  Seek first the Kingdom of God and these things will be added  to you, if it is God's will (Matthew 6:33). 

As we take a firm stand in  Christ (Romans 12:12), we can become joyful in hope, patient in  affliction, faithful in continued prayer. God hears and answers the  prayers of the righteous (James 5:16).  For He desires to give us a life  filled with hope and blessings (Jere. 29:11). I know of Christian  single women who have taken the role of child caretaker, becoming a  school teacher, or foster parent, when desiring children. God, as your  spiritual husband, can send you many such children to love and care for  (Is. 54:1-6).

 "Rejoice thou barren who barest not; break forth and cry,  thou that travailest  not: for the desolate have many more children than  she which has a husband (Gal. 4:27).  Never underestimate God's plan  for your life! -(1 Corinthians 2:9). Give your desires to Jesus.  He  will not let you down.   

Marriage is a very serious matter.  What concerns me most about your  question, is that you have dated someone to the point of considering  marriage, without true feelings of love for this person.  Sure, you may  like their company, but in a very real sense, you are using this person.  Worst yet, is the harm you are doing to this person and yourself. Love  and chemistry does not grow when you never had it to begin with. Show  genuine care and concern for this person and move on, in a kind, gentle  way. 

Be Honest and Never lead a person on. You will never meet Mr. or  Mrs. Right, until you quit settling for Mr. or Miss Right Now! We are   to be kind and compassionate towards one another, forgiving each other,  just as God forgives us (Ephesians 4:32).  We are called in  relationship, to love and respect each other (Ephesians 5:33).  Not  manipulate, nor seek to harm another. Oftentimes I see couples who  settle in a comfortable relationship for convenience sake.  Real love  encourages the opportunity for continued maturity.  If you see yourself  in a dead end relationship, do the right thing and leave with a heart  filled with empathy and compassion for the other person.  We reap what  we sow in life (Gal. 6:7).  We reap the good God desires to extend when  we do what is right.     

I DEFINE AN EMOTIONAL VAMPIRE AS: "A DEPLETED, NEGATIVE SPIRITUAL  CONDITION WITHIN A PERSON, MOST OFTEN DUE TO UNREPENTANT SIN, PAST  TRAUMA AND OR ABUSE, UNFORGIVENESS, AND PAIN. WHEREBY THEY SEEK TO TAKE  MORE THAN THEY GIVE IN ORDER TO COMPENSATE FOR WHAT THEIR SOUL (MIND,  WILL, EMOTIONS) LACK." You are right in your assessment of the  situation, in that a relationship with such a person will always leave  you feeling spiritually oppressed, drained, like the life-energy source  is being sucked out Of you. Often, those people who put up with such  ongoing, relationship problems, tend to come from a like background of  pain and suffering.  Co-dependency issues aside, your God given  intuition can kick in, (you can thank the Holy Spirit of God for that),  and you leave such a relationship.

 My advice is to read up on  co-dependency issues, self introspection being a very good thing. If you  can afford to do so, seek out a good Christian counselor, or a Godly,  mature, same sex Christian mentor, to help you sort through your  problems. Read God's word (and pray God's word) for personal  encouragement, wisdom, and understanding. As for the Emotional Vampire  of a boyfriend from sorrows snare? 

Tell him or her the truth. What is that  truth? You have found out in the dating process, that you are not  compatible (unequally yoked spiritually). You will be praying for him,  and you hope he seeks God in his life quest. Humble suggestions of a  good church he could attend (not the one you go to), offering him the  gift of a Bible, could help, if done with a sincere, non-judgmental  heart.  Our life examples are powerful. People learn a lot more about  God from what we do rather than what we say. Care, concern, offer  peaceful resolve. You can never be a help - counselor to an "emotional  vampire", only God, by the power of His Holy Spirit, can do that. Move  on, and don't look back! 

Seek to examine you own personal faults, and  ask God to show them to you clearly. Ask God for wisdom, understanding,  and knowledge (Proverbs 2).  We are all a work in progress.  Thank God  in prayer for providing you with "spiritual discernment", knowing  intuitively, that this boyfriend is not the right one for you, as abuse  is never justified.   

Demonic powers are very real! (Ezekiel 28:11-17; Isaiah 14:12-15;  Revelation 12:7-9).  Satan  comes only to kill and destroy (John 10:10).  When we commit acts of sin  outside of God's will, and Holy plan, we open doorways for the demonic  to attack us. Repeated sin brings consequences. If a Christian does not  sincerely repent of their sins, and go and sin no more, they can open  not only doorways...but large, vast gateways - portals, that the demonic  can use to oppress them. 

Possession becomes probable as well, for those  who lead a double life filled with sin, not being truly born again,  thereby "saved" (please visit our salvation website page: "A Free Gift",  for additional Biblical help/resource pertaining to "sanctification").   God cautions us; Do not to go down that path! - (Proverbs 1:10;15). If  by your own freewill you allow yourself to fall into such a sin trap, I  urge you to stop. Many people "fool around and fall in love", and have  sex with their love interest, thinking they will eventually marry  latter. I should know, I committed this very sin! Yet, two years latter,  I discovered the man I was about to marry lead an evil, sinister  double life of horrific sin, addicted to sex and pornography. .

 I left  him due to his vast sex and pornography addictions, related problems,  and crimes. When we have sex with another, we unite with them as "one  flesh" (1 Corinthians 6:16), and our soul and spiritual core does  suffer. God's word confirms we all have a spiritual core (Genesis 1:27).  Christians, by striving to live a Holy, God fearing, righteous life,  increase their connection to God and His Holy Spirit. I personally do  not believe our soul is literally tied into their soul. No where in the  Bible is such a "soul tie", as so defined, found to occur. However, I do  believe (as God's word confirms), the soul (mind, will, emotions), can  effect another person's soul (mind, will, and emotions), for good or bad  (Romans 16:17). 

 God says to purify ourselves (2 Corinthians 7:1),  remaining righteous, striving to live in surrender to His will and not  our own, which offers His protection. I can honestly tell you, I felt  the man I was involved with, was demonically harassed, and severely  oppressed, which became apparent after (and several times before) his  sin filled double life was revealed. Did this effect me? 

Most certainly,  YES! Both my soul and spirit were deeply, negatively affected! However,  I know it was me who opened the door and let him and sin in...by my own  free will. I suffered, just like God says we will when we are not in  alinement with His holy plan for our life. God's protection is always  near to those who confess and forsake sin (1 John 1:9;John 8:11). In  doing so, we close all doorways, gateways,or portals, if you prefer to  call them that, for Satan to enter. Demonic attacks will not totally  cease, however, when we put on the armor of God (Ephesians 6), He helps  us fight our battles, and Satan loses every time! 

 I repent of my sins  daily, and I pray you do too! What Satan meant for harm God has turned  around for good, the saving of many souls (Genesis 50:20),as I have been  in ministry, warning others, ever since. Synthia Esther Ministries has  been reaching the world for Jesus Christ since 2007 -www.synthiaesther.com,-  www.sexhisway.com, - www.techchronicity.com -  addiction  outreach  websites  providing free biblical help and recovery resources.  

 Many ask, "What  about those who are raped?" 

Those who are innocent, and raped  (consequences of living in a fallen sin based world), God protects and  heals.  We serve a great, big God, who protects our soul (mind, will,  and emotions), and spirit. God gives us a hope and a future (Jere.  29:11). Yes, good people will suffer bad things. As Satan is  temporarily, the god of this world (2 Corinthians 4:4). But our God  provides us eternal salvation, and this world will one day be ruled by  our loving Savior, Lord, and Friend.  Those who willingly commit sin  (and crimes such as rape), serve another savior and god (Lucifer - Satan  - the Devil). Such persons will one day have to answer to God for their  evil deeds. I pray for all those who are grossly, harmed and effected  by the sex industry.    

That's an easy question.  All Christians survive and thrive by placing  God's will above their own.  For in Him, we live, breath, and grow  spiritually mature.  Without Him, we are lost and going astray.  There  is no difference, whether single, or married.  We who are born again  serve a living Savior.  Living life in the flow of the good, God Life,  yields forth His life sustaining living water, and good fruit, which  does not wither (Psalm 1:3; Jere. 17:7-8). 

God does promise multiplied  blessings to those who choose to remain single (Matthew 19:27-30).  Please review 1 Corinthians 7, for additional Biblical reference  pertaining to Christians who are "single verses married".   God blesses the upright!

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