GOD, SEX, & SPIRITUAL CONNECTION REALMS - BY SYNTHIA ESTHER

Sexually immoral acts are sin's committed against one's own body - 1st Corinthians 6:18.

WHERE IS MY CHARMING GOD SENT PRINCE OF A PARTNER?

BY SYNTHIA ESTHER

You have now found a website that provides you with questions and answers concerning your Love Life. Your secret fantasies, sexual dreams, obsessions, and desires. I "understand" you have needs that you feel must be met. You desire a family, children, someone to love, hold, cherish, and share your life with. A dream come true in a soul and help mate, best friend, a partner on whom you can depend. Someone who adores you, calls you beautiful, pretty, or handsome, and loves you for who you are.

Maybe your stuck in a dire situation, with troubling issues to be rescued from your past, or present problems. Perhaps alone and miserable in a life you feel is going no where. Or bogged down with a currant mate you have nothing in common with, are not attracted to, or drives you up the wall because they are passive -aggressive, will not work, or has vast addiction problems. Perhaps you've met a very special someone, and feel you are crazy in love. Have you looked behind the fantasy, the grooming, by which your prince, or princess, may be using to court and seduce you?

Let me shock you back into reality...no one can complete you. Only God can do that!

All your searching in life for sexual conquests and fantasy dream relationships come true can often hide unmet needs within your hearts core. I know what and who can fill your void. His name is Jesus Christ! I know, you've heard all this before. Never like you are about to learn now...as you separate the truth from fiction of "dreams come true", "I know you", and "Where have you been all my life?"

For it is this mirroring effect, and "grooming", that can and often does lead down the deep, dark pit of entrapment, misery, and despair. Before you take a false leap of faith and date or marry the wrong person, or leave the marriage your in. I pray you find God's Biblical answers to some of the many questions you may ponder about your love life and relationships within the words that I write.

How do I survive and thrive as a single Christian?

That's an easy question. All Christians survive and thrive by placing God's will above their own. For in Him, we live, breath, and grow spiritually mature. Without Him, we are lost and going astray. There is no difference, whether single, or married. We who are born again serve a living Savior. Living life in the flow of the good, God Life, yields forth His life sustaining living water, and good fruit, which does not wither (Psalm 1:3; Jere. 17:7-8). God does promise multiplied blessings to those who choose to remain single (Matthew 19:27-30). Please review 1 Corinthians 7, for additional Biblical reference pertaining to Christians who are "single verses married".

I desperately desire a soul mate, why hasn't God provided me my hearts dream, come true?

God desires that He become your "SOUL MATE". No man or woman, or many men and women, can complete you. Only God can fill your heart and soul with the love relationship you crave. We are humans living a life in the shadow of sin's curse after Adam and Eve fell in the Garden of Eden (Genesis 3). Alienation from God occurred. In order to reverse that sin curse we accept Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior, and in repentance of our sins, follow His word, will, and ways. Whoever does so, has eternal life, and hears His voice (John 3:16-17; 1 John 5:12-13; John 10:27-29; 1 John 1:7).

With a renewed relationship in Christ, our fellowship with Him is restored (1 John 1:3), our conscious void of offence toward God and toward man (Acts 23:16) is made whole. When our relationship with God is held strong and secure, by the power of God's Holy Spirit, our wants and desires are changed. God is more concerned with the spiritual condition of our soul (mind, will, and emotions), than the physical expression of obsession in finding a "soul mate". When our soul is right, we place God as our mate, not man.

By placing God first, we allow His will to prevail in our life and not our own. He knows what is best for our spiritual growth. Oftentimes, when our priorities are right, we are more equipped to handle the joys and trials of a God sent mate. God knew you before you were born. His workmanship being marvelous, He alone knows what you need (Psalm 1:39; 13-15).

What Does God Desire Me To Do About My Love Life, As A Single Christian?

Jesus stated, for the Kingdom's sake, some of us are not to be married (Matthew 19:10-13). His Holy perspective, sees life with an eternal view. God's will for our love life, is to love Him above all else. He redeems our life from the pit and crowns us with love and compassion, forgives and heals us (Psalm 103:3-4). As we come to Him when we are heavy in burden, He gives us rest (Matthew 11:28). All you are and ever will be, when placed in the will of God, is good. When we as singles are freed from all distractions, we can serve Him more (1 Corinthians 7:32-35), as the time to do so is very short when viewed with from an Earth time perspective (1 Corinthians 7:29). When we live for Jesus, our love life is satisfied, all our fear is removed, all shame done away, and blessed with radiance we are (Psalm 34:4-5).

As a Christian, please define what it means to be "equally yoked"?

God desires that we as Christians be equally yoked with our dating and/or marriage partner. This would include, but is not limited to, the following goals: the same faith and religious background, common cultural and social views, comparable economic goals, intellectual and educational commonality, stable and healthy self image, like spiritual and emotional intelligence (empathy, sympathy, compassion, integrity, and character). Being happily married is a blessing, not a reform school. The reality of which, takes work.

A sincere, faithful relationship with Jesus Christ, coupled with an understanding of what makes us tick (faults, weaknesses, strengths etc...), goes a long way towards developing an equally yoked, mutual love based relationship. "By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established; through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures." - Proverbs 24:3-4

Single, Waiting, and Desiring Children. What Advice Can You Give Those Whose Dreams Have Yet To Be Fulfilled Concerning Such Matters?

When our dreams remain in limbo, we most always look for answers to such trying questions. Indeed, the Lord God said, "It is not good that the man should be alone. I will make him an help meet for him" - Genesis 2:18. Who so finds a wife (or husband ) finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord (Proverbs 18:22).

Not just anyone will do, for we as Christians are to be equally yoked (see previous, above question and answer for reference). We must obey God rather than men (Acts 5:29). Stay pure, and a sincere seeker of righteousness. The Apostle Paul stated: "And herein do I exercise myself, to have always a conscience void of offense towards God, and toward men" (Acts 24:16). Repentance of sin daily, remaining pure in spirit and truth, brings God's blessings (Hebrews 9:14).

Marriage, children, can become false idols in life. Complete fulfillment in this life is never obtained through idols, but God alone. Seek first the Kingdom of God and these things will be added to you, if it is God's will (Matthew 6:33). As we take a firm stand in Christ (Romans 12:12), we can become joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in continued prayer. God hears and answers the prayers of the righteous (James 5:16). For He desires to give us a life filled with hope and blessings (Jere. 29:11).

I know of Christian single women who have taken the role of child caretaker, becoming a school teacher, or foster parent, when desiring children. God, as your spiritual husband, can send you many such children to love and care for (Is. 54:1-6). "Rejoice thou barren who barest not; break forth and cry, thou that travailest not: for the desolate have many more children than she which has a husband (Gal. 4:27). Never underestimate God's plan for your life! -(1 Corinthians 2:9). Give your desires to Jesus. He will not let you down.

I Am Dating Someone Who Loves Me, And Wants To Marry, But I Do Not Love Them. Nor do I feel any chemistry attraction towards them. Should I Stay Or Should I Go?

Marriage is a very serious matter. What concerns me most about your question, is that you have dated someone to the point of considering marriage, without true feelings of love for this person. Sure, you may like their company, but in a very real sense, you are using this person. Worst yet, is the harm you are doing to this person and yourself. Love and chemistry does not grow when you never had it to begin with. Show genuine care and concern for this person and move on, in a kind, gentle way. Be Honest and Never lead a person on.

You will never meet Mr. or Mrs. Right, until you quit settling for Mr. or Miss Right Now! We are to be kind and compassionate towards one another, forgiving each other, just as God forgives us (Ephesians 4:32). We are called in relationship, to love and respect each other (Ephesians 5:33). Not manipulate, nor seek to harm another. Oftentimes I see couples who settle in a comfortable relationship for convenience sake. Real love encourages the opportunity for continued maturity. If you see yourself in a dead end relationship, do the right thing and leave with a heart filled with empathy and compassion for the other person. We reap what we sow in life (Gal. 6:7). We reap the good God desires to extend when we do what is right.

I Am In A Relationship With An Emotional Vampire, Who Literally Sucks The Life Out Of Me. Why Do I Often Feel So Uneasy Around My Boyfriend?

I DEFINE AN EMOTIONAL VAMPIRE AS: "A DEPLETED, NEGATIVE SPIRITUAL CONDITION WITHIN A PERSON, MOST OFTEN DUE TO UNREPENTANT SIN, PAST TRAUMA AND OR ABUSE, UNFORGIVENESS, AND PAIN. WHEREBY THEY SEEK TO TAKE MORE THAN THEY GIVE IN ORDER TO COMPENSATE FOR WHAT THEIR SOUL (MIND, WILL, EMOTIONS) LACK.

" You are right in your assessment of the situation, in that a relationship with such a person will always leave you feeling spiritually oppressed, drained, like the life-energy source is being sucked out Of you. Often, those people who put up with such ongoing, relationship problems, tend to come from a like background of pain and suffering. Co-dependency issues aside, your God given intuition can kick in, (you can thank the Holy Spirit of God for that), and you leave such a relationship.

My advice is to read up on co-dependency issues, self introspection being a very good thing. If you can afford to do so, seek out a good Christian counselor, or a Godly, mature, same sex Christian mentor, to help you sort through your problems. Read God's word (and pray God's word) for personal encouragement, wisdom, and understanding. As for the Emotional Vampire of a boyfriend from sorrows snare?

Tell him the truth. What is that truth? You have found out in the dating process, that you are not compatible (unequally yoked spiritually). You will be praying for him, and you hope he seeks God in his life quest. Humble suggestions of a good church he could attend (not the one you go to), offering him the gift of a Bible, could help, if done with a sincere, non-judgmental heart.

Our life examples are powerful. People learn a lot more about God from what we do rather than what we say. Care, concern, offer peaceful resolve. You can never be a help - counselor to an "emotional vampire", only God, by the power of His Holy Spirit, can do that. Move on, and don't look back! Seek to examine you own personal faults, and ask God to show them to you clearly. Ask God for wisdom, understanding, and knowledge (Proverbs 2). We are all a work in progress. Thank God in prayer for providing you with "spiritual discernment", knowing intuitively, that this boyfriend is not the right one for you, as abuse is never justified.

What are "Soul Ties", and can Demons enter me if I have sex with someone outside of God's Holy Plan?

Demonic powers are very real! (Ezekiel 28:11-17; Isaiah 14:12-15; Revelation 12:7-9). I have an entire website: www.sacredpursuit.org, that pertains to God, the occult-demonic realm,cause and effect. Satan comes only to kill and destroy (John 10:10). When we commit acts of sin outside of God's will, and Holy plan, we open doorways for the demonic to attack us.

Repeated sin brings consequences. If a Christian does not sincerely repent of their sins, and go and sin no more, they can open not only doorways...but large, vast gateways - portals, that the demonic can use to oppress them. Possession becomes probable as well, for those who lead a double life filled with sin, not being truly born again, thereby "saved" (please visit our salvation website page: "A Free Gift", for additional Biblical help/resource pertaining to "sanctification").

God cautions us; Do not to go down that path! - (Proverbs 1:10;15). If by your own freewill you allow yourself to fall into such a sin trap, I urge you to stop. Many people "fool around and fall in love", and have sex with their love interest, thinking they will eventually marry latter. I should know, I committed this very sin! Yet, two years latter, I discovered the man I was about to marry lead an evil, sinister, double life of horrific sin . I left him due to his vast sex and pornography addictions, related problems, and crimes.

When we have sex with another, we unite with them as "one flesh" (1 Corinthians 6:16), and our soul and spiritual core does suffer. God's word confirms we all have a spiritual core (Genesis 1:27). Christians, by striving to live a Holy, God fearing, righteous life, increase their connection to God and His Holy Spirit. I personally do not believe our soul is literally tied into their soul. No where in the Bible is such a "soul tie", as so defined, found to occur.

However, I do believe (as God's word confirms), the soul (mind, will, emotions), can effect another person's soul (mind, will, and emotions), for good or bad (Romans 16:17). God says to purify ourselves (2 Corinthians 7:1), remaining righteous, striving to live in surrender to His will and not our own, which offers His protection. I can honestly tell you, I felt the man I was involved with, was demonically harassed, and severely oppressed, which became apparent after (and several times before) his sin filled double life was revealed.

Did this effect me? Most certainly, YES! Both my soul and spirit were deeply, negatively affected! However, I know it was me who opened the door and let him and sin in...by my own free will. I suffered, just like God says we will when we are not in alinement with His holy plan for our life. God's protection is always near to those who confess and forsake sin (1 John 1:9;John 8:11).

In doing so, we close all doorways, gate ways, or portals, if you prefer to call them that, for Satan to enter. Demonic attacks will not totally cease, however, when we put on the armor of God (Ephesians 6), He helps us fight our battles, and Satan loses ground every time! I strive to repent of my sins daily, and I pray you do too! What Satan meant for harm God has turned around for good, the saving of many souls (Genesis 50:20),as I have been in ministry, warning others, ever since.

Many ask, "What about those who are raped?"

Those who are innocent, and raped (consequences of living in a fallen sin based world), God protects and heals. We serve a great, big God, who protects our soul (mind, will, and emotions), and spirit. God gives us a hope and a future (Jere. 29:11). Yes, good people will suffer bad things. As Satan is temporarily, the god of this world (2 Corinthians 4:4).

But our God provides us eternal salvation, and this world will one day be ruled by our loving Savior, Lord, and Friend. Those who willingly commit sin (and crimes such as rape), serve another savior and god (Lucifer - Satan - the Devil). Such persons will one day have to answer to God for their evil deeds. I pray for all those who are grossly, harmed and effected by the sex industry.

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DATING WITH GOD'S MISSION IN MIND

By Synthia Esther

The book seemed to have just the right cliches and trite answers to one's dating and relating questions. Singles striving to find their "soul mate" bought the book hoping to solve such riddling questions as, "Why men don't call you when they say they will?" "He's just not that into you, move on", being a quick summary of the answer.

Seems like common sense to me. So why do so many women, and men, obsess over the obvious, when dating rejection weighs in? The games people play when dating are too numerous to recount. Striving to figure out the nature of passive aggressive personality types, is a waste of time. What I have found to be common, is that many people strive to avoid conflict. They do not want to have to deal with emotional reactions and problems, so they just quietly disappear. Thank God, and move on, when you meet such a person. For their emotional intelligence and maturity level is very low.

There are also many who date to score sexually. They set the scene, court, charm, flatter, act romantic, just to have a good time, with hot sex being the motive and goal. One night stands are common in such dating and relating scenarios. Many singles are lonely, seek company, and the feeling of being loved, no matter how brief or fleeting. Depressed they haven't found "the right one" they often repeat these same mistakes and enter a state of inertia. Listless, and lacking motivation, when life doesn't seem to work out the way they wish it would.

Crushed dreams and unfulfilled desires are painful. "Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life." - Proverbs 13:12. The only way out for a sick heart, is to place our hope in Jesus! - (Psalm 42). This does not mean you have to kiss dating good-bye. Rather you seek God's will when dating and relating, and date only those who desire this same, spiritual resolve. Each person we meet, and share time with, is affected by our soul and spirit, testimony and witness. When we strive to share the "fruit of the spirit" (Galatians 5:22-23), peace and kindness qualities of our faith with another, we are blessed by God, who uses relationships to grow us up in Him.

I met a single, Christian male, and we conversed several times. He knew and named dropped many who were all fellow believers within many churches I had attended. He was bold in his witness, claiming Jesus as Lord. After a few in depth conversations, he asked me out, and I agreed. During our first, romantic dinner date, he casually stated his out look about God, was "Spiritual, but not Religious." Immediately a big red flag went off within my spirit, as this was a pat statement that I had come to view as liberal, with New Age leanings. I questioned, "Do you believe in following God's word?" To which he replied, God's word was subjective and not to be taken literally. A completely different view than what he had previously conveyed.

Profession of God, Jesus Christ, without the commitment to live out His word, which is God (John 1:1), meant we had little in common. I witnessed to him, relating the spiritual importance and significance of remaining true to God's Holy word. When dinner was over, I was surprised when he asked me out again. I thought to myself, "Our spiritual differences do not matter to him, but to me they do, God's will being my top priority". I politely said no, stating I did not think we were compatible, being unequally yoked in our beliefs. He became angry, and called me judgmental. When the check came, I put my money where my mouth was, stated I felt more comfortable if I paid for my own dinner, and he willingly complied.

Now many may think, this date was a complete failure. I do not. For I believe without a shadow of a doubt, God ordained this meeting (Romans 8:28). The end result being, this man knew more about the significance of God's word than he did before, and that there are "Christians" within the world who refuse to compromise their spiritual convictions. Dating with a mission in mind is not always easy. However, our witness and testimony for Jesus Christ is never lost (Isaiah 55:11).

Not all our dating experiences as single Christians will be perfect, as planned. Dating provides us with the opportunity to get to know someone, at a deeper level. When we see there are differences spiritually, we should never compromise our faith and beliefs in order to please another. Whatsoever we do, we are to do all to the glory of God (1 Corinthians 10:31). When met at the cross roads of important life decisions, always travel the God road, which brings peace and blessings! - (Jeremiah 6:16).

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