YOU HAD ME AT HOLY
By Synthia Esther
"You Can Never Find The Ultimate Without Finding The Sacred." - Ravi Zacharias
Into romance as your ultimate sexual outlet? Many women are just as addicted to romance novels, movies, and the fantasy they provide as are men addicted to graphic, demeaning, sex. No matter your preference, any and all addictions to fantasy sexual fulfillment will lead you empty and in search for more. And it is an addicts compulsive needs that lead to the use of a substance or behavior coupled with tolerance and physiological and physical withdrawal symptoms which best defines the cycling pattern of the addiction process. The Bible holds a realistic outline of the problems we encounter in life. It assumes humanity will be tempted to lust, to covet, to work too much, love money, pursue power, strike out in anger, to name a few sin vices that can plague us. As such, God provided the Ten Commandments as a source and guide that leads us towards spiritual protection. Just say "No" is a worthy resolve to sin's inclinations. When we do so, we avoid the harm of sin's consequences. "This is the love of God, that we keep His commandments. And His commandments are not burdensome." - 1st John 5:3
SEEK GOD'S WILL, NOT OUR OWN
"You had me at hello" has become an infamous quote made by Renee Zellweger to *Tom Cruise in the romance movie "Jerry Maguire", in which an authentic apology was given by Maguire for past, self centered, motivated interest. Service to self in lieu of service to his wife made Maguire rethink his motives, and what was most important in his life. He missed his wife. In the end Maguire put his wife and family back in the top spot, and we viewed a Hollywood made, happy ending. Moral to the story? Relationship is where it is at in life, and in 21st century society, authentic, honest, relationships are difficult to achieve. Why? Because we do not put God's will first in life. God (and His word - John 1:1), wife, children (family), job, hold the order of life priority God ordains and blesses. If you are living a double life on the down low, repent, come clean by disclosure seeking sincere forgiveness from God and your spouse.
While Maguire takes a step in the right direction towards winning back his wife's affections with a sincere apology. "You had me at Hello" is a quick and easy co-dependent's answer towards reaching a troubled relationship resolve. Not so in real life. As any betrayed Christian partner of a sex and pornography addict will confess. Indeed we do live in a cynical world, very cynical. Which is why many are searching in dire need of anything (drugs, sex, porn, etc...) to fill an empty void heart only God can fill. A better answer than "You had me at hello"? One of spiritual repentance and renewal, "You had me at Holy!" Only by striving to live a holy, sanctified life, will one reach the type of intimate, quality relationship ruled by love (not lust), the way God intended. Then you too can proclaim, "All is well with my soul."
Other notable quotes to consider in reflection of the Jerry Maguire movie theme as they relate to the sex addiction lifestyle?
* "Show me the money." The betrayed wife of a sex addict who has spent a boat load of money on their sexual obsessions while living a double life proclaims, "Show me a changed life!"
* "You gotta be fair...don't shoplift the pootie." Vernacular for shopping the pootie according to God? Do not have sex outside of marriage. Viewing free or paid for pornography, paying for prostitutes, and any other form of extra sexual experience outside of the bonds of marriage, is shoplifting the pootie. Singles having sex? An oxymoron according to God and His word (Mark 7:20-23; Gal. 5:19-21; 1st Cor. 6:18-20; 1st Thess. 4:3-5). The bible teaches self control rather than self indulgence (Gal. 5:19-24; 1st Cor. 10:13).
* "You complete me." Only Jesus Christ our Lord, Savior, and Friend can complete us as we are spirit living in a physical body. Being a spirit we long to feel a connection to God, our Holy Father. Ravi Zacharias is an Indian Born, Canadian-American Christian apologist and defender, like myself, of traditional Biblical evangelicalism as outlined within God's word. Ravi explains reality stalking us as we seek to fulfill our spiritual longings. During a recent talk he told the story of a wife who longed to experience the excitement of sins pleasure. Once she indulged in her lust filled longings for the night, she went back to her husband, (who was asleep in the bed and never knew she had left for the night), and broke down crying. He woke up concerned and asked his wife what was wrong? Her reply, "Nothing!"
When a person strives to fuel the desires with sin filled pleasures, the excitement is only brief. The bible says "Sin is fun for a Season" - Heb. 11:25. In the end, you get nothing but sorrow and shame. However, even shame and guilt can be a gift from God if such remorse draws you back to Him (Ps. 119:5-6), the true lover of your soul and spirit. Ravi Zacharias states, "You can never find the ultimate without finding the sacred." God is the ultimate for He is the "I AM", the beginning and the end to all you long for. And by the power and anointing of His Holy Spirit, He completes you.
*Article side note:
While I respect a person's right to worship and practice their freedom of religious choice. I include the following clarification:
Tom Cruise confirms he is a Scientology religious practitioner. Scientology believers attest we are not from planet earth, being immortal beings called Thetans. Salvation is achieved through an auditing process, which is very expensive. The writings of Scientology's founder, L. Ron Hubbard, (Dianetics - The Modern Science of Mental Health, published May 9, 1950, per example), are followed by many practitioners who describe Hubbard in hagiographic terms.
Hubbard's true reputation is far to the left of the flatter expressed by many of his converts. Hubbard was into the occult (review Jack Parson connection / sexual rituals), and was involved in government legal problems (Operation Snow White per one example). Scientologist do not believe in God, heaven, hell, or repentance, as written within the Holy Bible. Therefore, any reference to Cruise within this article is not an endorsement of Scientology, which in this Christian author's opinion, is a "cult".
* Please visit our website page titled, "A Free Gift" to learn more about Jesus Christ and His free gift of salvation (John 3:16-17). Salvation in Jesus Christ alone is the true path to mental health, peace, joy, and fulfillment.
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